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By Connor Jones. April 26, About 16 months ago, Michael, my best friend since age six, told me that he was gay. He knew I had no problem with gay people in the abstract, but he also knew that I, 16 years old and from Georgia, had scarcely interacted with anyone of alternate sexual orientations.

Nothing changed; Michael is still my best friend. What troubled me, however, were the stories of bigotry he experienced growing up, of which I had only been peripherally aware. In eighth grade, our health teacher basically told us that LSD would turn you gay, as it would make you suddenly want to make out with other men.

Fortunately, our peers slowly became more tolerant, and there was little hostility when Michael came out midway through senior year. Unfortunately for me, however, some of our classmates gay dqr wanted to be best friends with Michael, solely to show how tolerant and open-minded they were.

To them, his presence was a novelty. We joke now that they treated him like their pet. Of the two of you, we all thought you were gay dqr more likely to be gay. While I may disagree with how they arrived at their conclusion, I understand what they meant. At the time, he was also more reserved than I was.

Stereotypically, gay men are interested in arts and theater, whereas straight men excel in athletics.

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Straight men are supposed to be brusque and gay men gay dqr expected to lead conversation. Taking this either consciously or unconsciously, everyone would target me before Michael. In prejudging us both, our peer revealed her belief in the very stereotypes with which she supposedly disagrees.

A man with a high voice is only considered gay because the discussion around homosexuality originally relied on gross misconceptions that gay men wanted to be women. Enemies of gay rights used to be the ones who openly acted on these notions, socially alienating those men, whether they were gay or not.

Now, though, even gays and allies act as though they are entitled to make these decisions about people. And he knew that just from a picture. People like him often forget that there are many who have legitimate reasons for not coming out quite yet. One person I know comes from a conservative, evangelical family.

He may wish that he could come out, but he knows if he did, his parents would refuse to pay for his education. Sneering at someone like him for remaining in the closet is completely unjustified. While being true to oneself is a high goal, I hold education above it.

Further, gay-dar is a fully one-dimensional concept. It puts people into two categories—straight or gay—despite the spectrum of human sexuality, which includes bisexual, transsexual, and asexual, among others. Another friend of mine at Georgetown happens to be bisexual.

Although he is not ashamed of his identity, he is not openly bisexual. So, when his peers saw him kissing another man at a gay dqr they automatically assumed that he was exclusively homosexual. Bisexuality was never considered.