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But as many moviegoers may be wondering this weekend after seeing the film Bottoms — wha t does it mean to be a bottom? What is the meaning of submissive? Well luckily submissive gays have unearthed this post from to get you back into the realm of knowledge on this topic. These are the demographics of the respondents:.

Survey responses suggested that there are three distinct approaches to these terms from queer women, trans men and non-binary people:. The penetration-related activities mentioned in the below graphic involve fingers and strap-ons because they were the acts most statistically numerous in our survey results, but of course other kinds submissive gays penetrative sex exist for cis and trans women, non-binary people and trans men, including penetration with toys or with penises, and those activities are enjoyed by many bottoms of all kinds.

While bottoms expressed a similar level of interest in giving external stimulation as they are in getting it, there was a distinct preference for receiving when it came to all penetration-related activities. For gay men, tops penetrate and bottoms get penetrated. It is your job to navigate.

However, the vast majority of tops and bottoms were into pleasuring their partner — but that could mean so many things! Well, ladies and otherwise-identified people, while rumors of a Top Shortage may be overstated, the queer kink community may indeed be suffering from a Dom Shortage.

When I say I am a bottom, I am referring to this as well as more broadly being on the receiving end in less power-heavy sex. Those who fell into the latter camp were also more likely to define bottom as being more logistical than psychological. Other interesting comments included:.

Is it true that femmes were more likely than mascs to identify as bottoms? You bet! Does that mean all femmes are bottoms? Absolutely not! Nor is it safe to assume bottoms prefer certain sex acts or dynamics. A lot of the language in these posts is intended to make them easy to find on search engines.

Take what you want and what applies to you or what you can make apply to you and your partners and your experiences, and leave the rest! Riese is the year-old Co-Founder of Autostraddle. She had a very popular personal blog once upon a time, and then she recapped The L Wordand then she had the idea to make this place, and now here we all are!

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Follow her on twitter and instagram. Today I finally created an account just so I could submissive gays a comment on this piece. As a person who works in public health, I am so happy to see Autostraddle do this kind of sociological research. I love the mix of community data and personal identity, all delivered with the signature Autostraddle sophistication.

I especially liked the distinctions between bottom and submissive, and how bottoming can sometimes be a kink thing and sometimes not. This is such a good clarification of vague thoughts I was having. Thanks for helping us learn about us! Honestly, feels like a weird way to frame a brand-new dataset, by pulling in personal anecdotes when there were such a wealth of open responses to quote instead.

Not what I expect from AS. Also, is it possible that some of what is presented as anecdotal is actually the result of following up on survey responses, or discussing them in depth as a team?